When first finding out about Harper’s Down syndrome diagnosis, I was immediately grateful for the large family we have supporting us. I knew without a moment of doubt that they would love, support, and cherish Harper. What a gift in such uncertain times!
As I’ve learned more about the importance of peer relationships for Harper’s development, I’m ecstatic that she has 10 cousins under the age of 7 right now. These built-in friends are going to play a huge role in her life. We’ve already gotten to see these relationships take shape over the last year. The excitement her cousins exude when they see her is a delight to witness. Of her 10 cousins there are two relationships that have really bloomed.
From the beginning, Harper’s oldest cousin Vivi has shown great interest in her. She is always asking if she can hold her. When we sit down for our weekly Sunday lunch at my parents’ house – yes you read that right, my parents host lunch for my siblings and our families every week – Vivi pulls her chair near Harper and shares her food. It is so much fun to see their little friendship blossom. Pretty sure Vivi and Harper will be hosting their own YouTube channel one day full of make-up tutorials, dances, and cheers. When I think of the future I can imagine a very sweet friendship between the two of them and that brings me hope.
Full of energy and all boy, Micah surprised me with his love for Harper. You can typically find him wildly playing, but something sweet happens when he plays with Harper. He will sit quietly with her and softly touch her hair. There is a gentleness that Harper brings out of him that is beautiful. He is also the best at getting her to giggle and it is the cutest thing. Her eyes just twinkle when she is playing with Micah and it is a complete joy to watch.
Friendship is an important part of life and seeing these friendships develop gives me hope for the future. I know Harper won’t be alone. I know she will have a place she fits in. While it might not be Vivi or Micah that she grows closest to over the years, there are plenty of other cousins for her to find a friend in and that brings so much peace to this mama.
Sure, there are some uncertainties ahead. I’m kind of nervous when her cousins realize something is different with Harper, but right now she is just like any other baby we’ve welcomed into the family.
Beautiful, Laurie! This Gigi’s heart is melting! Harper definitely has a tribe that will ALWAYS be there for her.
Beautiful post! Don’t worry about those cousins, Mamma. She will always be simply the Harper they know and love.